- I will tell my friends and family when their teasing crosses the line and hurts my feelings.
- When people ask me to do something I don’t want to do or don’t have time for, I will say “no.” Politely, of course, but no excuses or apologies are necessary.
- I will make “no” mean “no” — not “okay, fine, if you nag me enough, yes.”
- I will say something when another person takes advantage of me or hurts my feelings, instead of silently letting it fester.
- If I’m on an awful date/at an awful party/on an awful phone call, there is no need to subject myself to misery. I can just get up and leave/hang up the phone.
- I will be more protective of my personal time when it comes to other people’s disorganization and crazy schedules.
- I will communicate what I need and why, instead of assuming other people can figure it out on their own. Surprisingly, a lot of people are terrible about understanding other people’s needs, wants and desires unless explicitly told.
- When someone makes a racist, sexist or homophobic comment or joke, I will call them out whether it is directed at me or not.
- I will refuse to be guilt tripped or join in on other people’s guilt trips. If someone else feels guilty about XYZ and lets that behavior determine their decisions, I don’t have to jump on board, too. Especially if I don’t feel guilty at all.
- I will remind myself every day, if need be, that I’m a smart, sensitive, caring, thoughtful, and good-intentioned person and at the end of the day, loving myself is what matters most.
I’m over games, guessing, questioning, waiting, immaturity, dumbness.
Bring on the manners, respect, responses, knowing, intelligence, thoughtfulness.
I’m over excuses.
Bring on the responsibility.
I’m over mystery.
Bring on the presumptuous.
I’m over followers.
Bring on the rein takers.
I’m over Kids; just bring on the Gentlemen!
"Whatever you do in life will be insignificant but it is very important that you do it because you can’t know, you can’t ever really know the meaning of your life and you don’t need to. Just know that your life has a meaning. Every life has a meaning, whether it lasts one hundred years or one hundred seconds…every life and every death changes the world in it’s own way. Gandhi knew this. He knew his life would mean something to someone, somewhere, somehow. And he knew with as much certainty that he could never know that meaning. He understood that enjoying life should be of much greater concern than understanding it. And so do I. You can’t know. So don’t take it for granted but don’t take it too seriously. Don’t postpone what you want. Don’t leave anything misunderstood. Make sure the people you care about know, make sure they know how you really feel. Because just like that…it could end."
"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a Reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a Season, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life…whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.”
To my friends!
Whether you are for a Reason, for a Season, or for a Lifetime…
Know that I cherish you all <3
Sometimes, a smile is all it takes to break the ice.